Benoit Denizet-Lewis, the reporter who says "dude" and hangs out with frat boys, writes about black men on the down low (PDF), fawns over Jake Gyllenhaal, and drools over Abercrombie & Fitch's man-boy chief, delivers a lengthy article about young gay men getting married at such an early age, even the gays are a bit surprised.

Granted, the article could've eschewed the headline "Young Gay Rites" for "Look, Gays do What Straight People Do!" (the accompanying pictorial illustrates as much) but it also serves as a chance to remind us Denizet-Lewis is a member of the tribe.

IN 2004, when I was 28, CNN asked me to gather together a group of my Boston friends in their 20s for a short segment about gay marriage. The network wanted to know what young gay men in Massachusetts thought about our newfound right.

For nearly an hour, seven of us — five working professionals in our 20s and two college undergraduates — sat in a coffee shop and talked theoretically about what a young gay marriage might entail. In the end, most of us agreed that we would like to be married — just not yet. We still had a lot of living, and growing up, to do. While many of our heterosexual peers undoubtedly did as well, we were immune from the pressure some of them felt to marry. No one — not our friends, not our families, not the gay community — expected us to wed.

He may be on contract, but don't make the mistake of leaving Denizet-Lewis off the list of the Times' Gay Mafia again.